Call me a cynic but does love care and affection still exist on the African continent?
With the level of poverty, deprivation and joblessness existing now, i think no one is attracted to you for u. I think they are attracted to you because of what you can bring to the table/provide.
I miss the old days when you graduate from school and a job is waiting for u. Not anymore it appears. Dunno about other parts of Africa but its terrible in Nigeria.
No jobs, light and some of the most basic of human amenities. As a young man u have to resort to several innovative and sometimes unorthodox ways to keep body and soul together while the government official sit and enrich themselves.
The result is that love and affection is based on how much money u have and u are bringing in. So its a contractual agreement between u and ur partner.
U bring the money (don't care how u get it) and i will give u myself. Commerce of human emotion where people become commodities. Amusing? I think not. God help us.
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